Assumptions. Ever heard the phrase that ASSUME -ing makes an Ass out of U and ME.
I don’t like assumptions because they tend to based on PAST behaviors or interactions. It is hard to feel respected when assumptions are made about you or others. Most of all, they hurt because they can be a judgement. A judgment that could have been avoided with some honesty. 
Assumptions hurt even more when they are from people you were close with or shared similar experiences with. When I hear this, immediately I start judging myself and worrying about how others view me. We already live in this realm of judgement and comparison, no need to bring that focus there yet again.
No lie, we are all guilty of making assumptions but when someone makes one about you it hits home and reminds me once again to be mindful of my words. Mindful of my actions. Who knew one text could make me coil inside and feel so bad about myself? Bad about something I shouldn’t have to justify or defend. Bad because it wasn’t true.
One of those reminders that hit you when you are on the receiving end. Life’s tough get a helmet… 
Question: What are one of those life reminders you always keep in mind? What helps you remember to not make assumptions?
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Love the helmet quote!!
One of my favorite!
Something that I keep in mind that helps me not “assume”, is to apply the golden rule, and treat people how I wish to be treated. I HATE assumptions to the extreme and have lived with my mom long enough to know that she is queen of making them. She has come very far, but she used to assume that things I would do or say were based on my eating disorder. It made me feel like I was an eating disorder, which I am most definitely not, and it also stinted me from seeing the progress I had and was making. She still makes silly assumptions like me being emotional is based off of not eating enough. At the end of the day though, I have learned that as long as I know what is real and true, that is all that matters. I shouldn’t have to justify being me for anyone and neither should you dear Alex! I’m sorry that a text sent you down the distressed hall!
But, be strong and push through like the amazing and willful Alex I know <3!
I am glad you can relate on this, assumptions, especially someone with my type of background just rub me the wrong way and really stick in me. I think I just try to not dwell on it and know I need to do what feels good for me. Ugh, I hate that people make tons of assumptions on you, seems like you have your head in the right place though.
Ah this is a though one! For me it helps to “get older”… for some reason it’s becoming easier to see things in perspective and stop making assumptions. I used to torture myself with assuming what others might want me to be/do/act/say/etc… and acting upon that assumption. It’s a horrible way to live; so therefore I’m constantly reminding myself to not make assumptions about/for others and not letting others get to me either – but it’s easier said than done sometimes
I agree, way easier said then done. I guess getting older adds that maturity factor and kind of the idea of, well this is just how I am.
Phew,this is a good question! Not to make assumptions is easier said than done,unfortunately. I tend to make assumptions pretty often,but then remind myself of how deceiving these can actually be… So I usually try to get to know more about the respective topic/ person and afterwards make up my mind again (or not
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That is a wonderful way to approach it and what I try and do as well. Like anything, we all get caught up in those things no matter what.
It’s so easy to make assumptions because we assume we know all the answers, but I try to put myself in the other person’s shoes, or think about what they could assume (incorrectly) about me. It’s hard, but I’m definitely trying
That is a great way to look at it, I couldn’t agree more.
Ugh. Assumptions are right up there with the comparison trap, seriously. I think on some level we’re all guilty of making assumptions (either about what others do, or about what others think of us/expect of us), but…I tend to keep these things to myself. If I find myself caught up in assuming something about another person, I would never blatantly say it to them, and through just getting to know them better I’m either proved right or proved wrong, and it never needs to leave my head. I hate when people say to me “Oh, I always just assumed you…..fill in the blank” and so I really really try never to voice my assumptions to other people, and to reality-check myself if an assumption is affecting a relationship – or really anytime I find myself having an assumption about people! And basing a relationship (or lack of) on an assumption is just retarded. rarr.
I am glad you agree on this. I was actually nervous about typing that post because I really felt like people would see it as an almost bitchy statement. I just know I need that reminder as much as everyone else. It is hard not to do it just like comparisons.
That quote…LOVE! I wish I knew that in high school. But I guess that’s what growing up is all about
I am the same way, I miss being and living at home. Crazy..